There are many key elements that pertain to relationship fulfillment and personal development that is often necessary in the preparation to a lasting, healthy and loving connection. Now, there are many essential components to “doing the work” on one’s self. The work is ongoing but the process is invaluable. The following are what I consider the main essentials (not in any order of preference) to “doing the work” before you get into a relationship.

Revisiting and Prioritizing her Value System - What I mean by this is she must understand her “core self” and what is vital to her existence as a person i.e., religion, marriage, respect, emotional health. Knowing these intangible assets about her is precious and empowering. She should understand that her Value System is not based on the fear of not having a man, relationship or some form of companionship. Her Value System essentially is the pillar of her as a woman. These core values can be reprioritized but should never be compromised.

Emotional Well-Being - This requires the commitment to “self”. It’s imperative for a woman to relieve herself of all things stressful. Creating a realm of peace and tranquility in her mind that lends itself to the rest of the body for strength and assurance. Taking time to heal from past experiences and develop love for her and, not harden to block doors of opportunity to better love and experiences.

Spirituality - It’s significant for a woman to be in touch with her spirituality and not hide behind it. It’s most beneficial for her and to a potential mate/partner to have a true grip on what her principles and beliefs are in order for the connection to be of some understanding to provide a sound foundation to build from.

Clarity on what she wants - Often a woman will express what she wants because it sounds good or because it looks good. She somehow feels that it’s the right thing for her just because she saw it working for someone else. Often decisions are made based on someone else’s experience or what someone tells another person what they should or should not do. Regularly, people think they want something particular in a relationship, for example; a man with money, or an older man with experience, however, when they get what they ask for they really don’t know what it entails nor do they really understand why they wanted it in the first place. Typically, lack of clarity in relationships often brings pain and chaos. It’s important to know where you are going in life and in your relationship so that you know how to get there and why you’re going there alone or with someone that you love and that love is reciprocated.