Being in a relationship for a any period of time will lend a great level of comfortableness. What you don’t want is to become Too Comfortable- so comfortable that you are passive and stagnant. If there’s not any  “stretching” of either parties within the relationship than this can easily diminish to be something even far less than a “comfort zone”.  A “comfort zone” is certainly not healthy for a relationship. The relationship manifest into a surface union that minimizes communication and sexuality between you and your partner.

A comfort zone provides the illusion of a “safe” relationship in terms of minimizing conflict. However, the comfort zone also is filled with compromise which leads to unmet needs and desires due to lack of pro-activity. As Dr. Phil suggest, if you are in a “comfort zone” you are failing to meet your responsibilities in the relationship. Don’t be dragged down by your partner with complacency, get control of your life and take back your relationship.

Shelby M. Hill, MBA, CPC